On OKCupid; We’m male. I do not deliver messages that are many possibly 3-5 each week & i am attempting to be selective & make time to re-read a profile and write an “attractive” message. I do not get numerous reactions and i am aware that some ladies have lots of unsolicited msgs. So they may be excessively selective.
So, some body awesome reacted and I also delivered a note straight straight back later on the exact same time. Just checked: yikes, only a little over one hour. Now it has been 2 days & compliment of OKC’s “last visited” snoop-a-matic, i am aware she is been on.
So a) must I have actually waited longer? B) will she respond? (rhetorical: i am aware we’m being impatient) c) the length of time can I wait the next occasion?
I suppose I really could make use of the time for you to write a draft reaction & allow it sit for dispassionate review.
Present & related: simply ending interaction, callous as it might appear, is really the norm and possibly in fact is a simpler let down than “on 2nd thought perhaps not interested” message. The 3 rule still sort of exists, for some people, anyway day.
I suppose I possibly could utilize the right time and energy to write a draft reaction
Oh please don’t try this — it will likely be obvious, and it surely will probably be a long time. You do not even comprehend that which you may be giving an answer to. Calm down, go after a stroll. Move away from your personal computer. Do not bring your smartphone. Awesome person either will or will maybe not respond, it is from the fingers now. Posted by desjardins at 1:41 PM on April 1, 2011 2 favorites
Information point: we frequently read communications appropriate away. I do not react until once I’ve thought about any of it just a little, and that little bit of procrastination means often it could take a few times for me personally to obtain around to it. The timing of my reaction isn’t actually associated with the timing associated with other individual’s (caveat: we you will need to react to every message we have, and We have the impression which is not the norm). Don’t stress down excessively about this.
Additionally, exactly exactly what Lyn Never Ever stated. Posted by Vibrissa at 1:51 PM on 1, 2011 1 favorite april
If some body writes in my experience and it is interesting, I usually just simply take about a time to react. I shall go through the individuals profile then think about a thoughtful response, particularly into the message that is first. I am going to generally reduce the time passed between communications in the future.
I usually take things at the responder’s pace if I write someone first. Me, I will wait at least a day to write to him if it took 2 days for the guy to respond to. I do not like to overwhelm individuals.
We often feel overrun whenever individuals react too rapidly.
It is a situation that is tricky I do not understand most of the correct answers. I experienced also toyed because of the notion of asking the same concern to yours to have a basic opinion of whether We’m following online dating sites etiquette. Posted by parakeetdog at 1:52 PM on April 1, 2011
So a) must I have actually waited longer? B) will she reply?
A) probably maybe maybe not b) possibly published by empath at 1:52 PM on 1, 2011 3 favorites april
We get e-mail observe that We have brand brand brand new okc communications and can often make use of the mobile web site to see a brand new message. OKC implies that we’ve logged on, but I never compose reactions from my phone – that takes place from the when I can log into my home computer weekend. But i do want to check the inbox just in case a date cancelled, etc.
We don’t/wouldn’t read such a thing into response times. Do not compose a reply to an email you have not seen yet. Otherwise, all you’re saying seems good. Anecdotally, we normally have a primary reply that is contact of 20-30%, i do believe which is fairly normal.
Ideally you feel a lot better so now you have got a lot of near-instant responses that are askme.: ) posted by momus_window at 1:58 PM on April 1, 2011
That you don’t would you like to regularly react to the same individual within one hour, since which could conjure a graphic of some guy desperately sitting around on OKCupid 24/7 willing to immediately answer any person in the contrary intercourse who deigns to publish to him.